LGBTQ Wedding Tips
With Honolulu Pride week having come and gone (all too quickly if you ask me) - we wanted to give some fun tips for planning your LGBTQ wedding. Some people try to ignore the fact that there are some differences but - in all hoensty - no two weddings are ever the same and we’re here to help everyone have the most seamless experience when planning their big day.
1. Your relationship is unique - your wedding should be, too.
Make sure to take some time to incorporate the things that make your relationship special. The question that gets asked the most is “how do people normally do it? Try to avoid asking yourself this at all costs. Make this event your own.
Was your first date at a concert? Make your invitations look like concert tickets. Do you love to go to the zoo every Saturday? Consider having your wedding at a ballroom at the zoo. Those special touches will remind you about what brought you to this day and will give your loved ones special glimpses into your relationship.
2. Family issues? Everyone’s got ‘em.
Believe me. Everyone has family issues. It doesn’t matter what race, orientation, sex, religion… If you’ve got a family there are bound to be some issues. Don’t let that stop you from doing what you want, this is your day.
3. Choose a point person and create a wedding website
Let’s be honest… Weddings are stressful. And a non-traditional wedding will have a few added stresses. The best way to deal with this is to avoid any additional pressure. Adding a wedding website for your guests and having a point person to take any unnecessary questions will be a lifesaver. Give this person access to your details so they are pretty self-sufficient and you’ll be set.
4. Incorporate only those that want to be incorporated - this includes vendors.
The question of vendors comes up nine times out of 10. The truth of the matter is… You want to be around a group of people that is encouraging and wants to be a part of your event, vendors included. There’s nothing worse than having to pay someone that is making you feel uncomfortable on the most important day of your life. Certain vendors are important… But feeling like 1 million bucks on your special day is more important. Don’t let anyone in your circle that gives you any less.
5. Don’t Avoid. Explore.
The worst thing you can do when planning is avoid things that are inevitable and have to be decided on. Do we both walk down the aisle? Should we both wear dresses? Should I dance with my mom if you’re not going to dance with your dad? It’s ok. Establish in the beginning with each other and your planner that some things may need a little more thought. When these moments arise, explore all the possible scenarios/options, put a pin in it so everyone has time to think and come back later to make a decision.
*Just make sure you establish a deadline for all decisions like this.
More than anything else - make sure to make it your own. Need a little inspiration? Check out Noa and Ross’ Maui wedding complete with a New York runway style aisle. It doesn’t get anymore unique than this and we are living and dying for it.