National Coming Out Day: The One Day Where Being Extra is Totally Encouraged
Alright, let’s have a real talk about National Coming Out Day.
October 11th might seem like just another day, but it’s actually a huge deal for a lot of people. It’s a day that’s all about owning your truth, shaking off fear, and stepping into who you really are, LOUDLY and PROUDLY.
Whether you’re part of the LGBTQIA+ community or an ally, this day matters because it celebrates something huge: being unapologetically YOU.
But how did this whole thing start, and why should we care? Let’s dive in.
The Backstory (Or How National Coming Out Day Became a Thing)
Picture this: It’s 1988, and two visionary minds, psychologist Robert Eichberg and activist Jean O’Leary, decide to create a day that’s all about visibility.
The idea?
If more people come out, we can slowly chip away at ignorance, fear, and, let’s be real, just plain old stupidity.
October 11th was picked to commemorate the anniversary of the 1987 National March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights, where half a million people demanded equality (as they should).
Since then, National Coming Out Day has become a celebration of courage, a middle finger to discrimination, and a reminder that everyone deserves to live their truth without judgment.
But.....
Is National Coming Out Day Still Matters?
Let’s be honest, coming out is not just a one-time thing.
It’s a constant process, and it’s deeply personal. But National Coming Out Day makes that process a little bit easier because it reminds people they’re not alone.
Here’s why this day still packs a punch:
Visibility Breaks Down Walls: Ever notice how when people see something different, they either fear it or get curious about it? Coming out brings visibility to the LGBTQIA+ community, helping to normalize identities that mainstream society still sometimes doesn’t get.
Fighting Stigma, One Story at a Time: Every time someone comes out, it chips away at prejudice and makes people rethink their assumptions. The more open we are, the less power ignorance holds.
Solidarity FTW: For those who aren’t ready to come out, seeing others do it can be a lifeline. It says, “Hey, when you’re ready, we’ve got your back.”
So, someone trusts you enough to come out to you?
That’s big.
Here’s your crash course in how to not screw it up:
Listen First, Speak Second: Seriously, zip it and let them talk. This moment is about them, not you.
Respect Their Pace: Some people will cry, some will laugh, and some will just shrug. Let them be themselves without expecting a specific reaction.
Offer Support, Not a TED Talk: It’s not the time for a speech. Just let them know you’re there if they need you.
Get Their Pronouns Right: You don’t need to make it a thing. Just ask what they prefer and roll with it. Respect is the name of the game.
Celebrate the Heck Out of Them: Coming out is brave. Whether they’re cool as a cucumber or nervous as heck, let them know you’re proud of them.
One of the coolest things about National Coming Out Day is the sense of community it builds. Coming out isn’t just a solo act; it’s part of a bigger movement toward acceptance and equality.
It’s a day where LGBTQIA+ folks can come together, support each other, and say, “Hey, we’re all in this together.”
And for allies, it’s a chance to step up and show some love, too. It’s about more than just saying “I accept you", it’s about being an active part of making the world a safer place for everyone to be themselves.
Thinking About Coming Out?
If you’re considering coming out on National Coming Out Day (or any day, really), here are a few things to keep in mind:
Do It on Your Own Terms: Don’t let anyone pressure you into coming out before you’re ready. This is your story, your timeline.
Safety is Key: If coming out could put you in harm’s way—physically or emotionally—wait until you’re in a safer space. Your well-being comes first.
Nerves Are Normal: Even if you’re sure the people in your life will be supportive, it’s natural to feel a bit anxious. It’s a vulnerable moment, but trust me, it’s also a powerful one.
You’ve Got Backup: Whether you’re coming out to a close friend or shouting it from the rooftops, remember there’s a whole community out there who’s been through it and will have your back. Reach out to LGBTQIA+ groups, online spaces, or trusted friends for support.
National Coming Out Day is about more than just the act of coming out, it’s about creating a world where nobody has to hide who they are. And while we’ve made some serious strides, there’s still work to do. Hate, discrimination, and ignorance are stubborn enemies, but they’re no match for courage, love, and community.
So whether you’re coming out, standing by someone who is, or just learning more about what it means to be a supportive ally, take a moment to recognize the bravery behind living authentically. Because being yourself is, hands down, the ultimate power move.
Keep it real, stay bold, and remember—love wins. ALWAYS.
-Chavah Grant
